Kink, BDSM & Fantasy

Most kink glossaries are alphabetical, which is useless if you do not already know the word you are looking for. This one is grouped by… Read More »Types of Kink: A Plain List of What the Words Actually Mean

A foot fetish is arousal centred on feet — and, by extension, on ankles, toes, shoes and socks. It is one of the most mocked… Read More »Foot Fetish: What It Is, Why It Is So Common, and How to Bring It Up

A sadist, in the kink sense, is someone who is aroused by giving an intensity that another person has asked for. The qualifier on the… Read More »Sadist: What the Word Means in Kink, and What It Does Not

Chastity, as a kink, is an agreement about when someone is allowed to come — and, more to the point, about who decides. Everything else… Read More »Chastity: What the Kink Means, and How Couples Actually Do It

Voyeurism is arousal from watching. That is the whole definition, and almost everything interesting about it is in what the word has come to imply… Read More »Voyeurism: What It Actually Means, and How Couples Explore It

A masochist is someone who finds certain kinds of physical intensity pleasurable when the context is right. That last clause is doing most of the… Read More »What Is a Masochist? The Meaning, Without the Melodrama

There is a particular kind of couple who arrive at this and cannot find anything useful written for them. He wants her to lead. She… Read More »Female-Led Roleplay: Dynamics, Scenes, and the Clothed Power Gap

Most role play does not fail on the idea. It fails about four seconds in, when someone has to say the first line out loud… Read More »BDSM Roleplay Scripts: What to Actually Say