There is no shortage of lists of sex games. We publish one ourselves, free. What a list gives you is a name and a sentence — and then the two of you are standing in your own bedroom at nine o’clock working out how it starts, who goes first, and what happens when one of you laughs.
That gap is what this book is for.
What it is
fifty-two games across five tiers, at about 460 words each. Every one of them has the same six sections, in the same order, so you can find the part you need at eleven at night without reading the whole thing again.
| The idea | what the game actually is, in a few lines |
| Setting up | the room, the props, the five minutes beforehand |
| How to start it | the opening move, and the words for it |
| How to play | the rules, in the order you need them |
| Dial it up / dial it down | one step in each direction |
| When it goes sideways | the failure mode and the recovery |
The games in Tiers Four and Five have a seventh, Afterwards. The ones below it do not, and we have not added one for the sake of symmetry — aftercare is genuinely optional after twenty minutes of a guessing game and genuinely not optional after a twenty-four hour contract, and a book that treats those the same is wrong about one of them.
The five tiers
- Tier One — Warm-ups. Clothes on, nothing to lose. Every game here can be abandoned mid-sentence without it meaning anything.
- Tier Two — Getting closer. Touch, teasing, and the discipline of going slower than you want to.
- Tier Three — Turning up the heat. Explicit, and still nothing anyone would call kinky. The largest section, because it is where most couples live.
- Tier Four — Power and play. One of you decides and one of you does not. Light, structured, and the cheapest way to find out whether you like this at all.
- Tier Five — The deep end. Longer and more elaborate, built to run for an evening or a weekend rather than twenty minutes.
They run from fifteen minutes to three days, and the book tells you which is which before you start — so you are not forty minutes into something you had half an hour for.
Who it is for
Couples who are curious and have run out of ways to bring it up. That is most couples, and we wrote for them rather than for the confident minority who never needed a book.
It assumes you have a partner you trust and that you can talk to each other outside the bedroom. If you already talk easily about all of this, you can still use the games — but you are not who the structure is built for, and you can skip the tiers and go where you like.
What you should know before buying
Thirty-three of the fifty-two games are on this site already, as a paragraph each, free. Nineteen are not published anywhere. The site tells you a game exists; the book tells you how to run it, what to say first, and what to do when it stops working.
If the paragraph is all you wanted, take the paragraph. It is free and it is staying free. We would rather say that here than have you find out afterwards.
Consent, limits and a way to stop are built into the games themselves rather than parked in an introduction nobody reads. Every rule in the book is subordinate to the person you are playing with.