There are as many ways to “do” BDSM stuff as there are people…so really, what you can do is almost limitless. These are just a few ideas to bring into your sex life.
Have you ever wanted to role play being someone else? Not just in the FML-can-I-be-rich-and-famous-already way, either. We’re talking about your sexual fantasies, those secret moments when you imagine yourself right in centre of the action of the erotic fiction you’re reading or porn you’re watching.
Role play is one of the best ways of flirting with your wildest sexual fantasies. So it’s no surprise that a lot more of us these days are enjoy exploring a range of possible sexual scenarios through acting and imagination – aka roleplay.
Before the good stuff, a few safety tips:
Talk about what’s going on with your partner. You don’t necessarily have to tell him or her exactly what you’re planning; sometimes surprises are fun. But you don’t want to do anything your partner hates, either.Similar Posts Others have Liked:
Establish a “safeword.” It’s a code word that means “stop. Really. I mean it.” You don’t want to use a word like “no” or “stop,” because sometimes you might want to work a pretend struggle into your fantasy. (I like “Kshama.”) If you use a gag, establish another way that that person can say “Enough”–one common solution is for the gagged partner to hold a bell and drop it if things get to be too much.
Keep a few things handy. Want to tie somebody up? Have some scissors on hand in case you need to get ’em loose in a hurry. Bandage scissors can be slipped beneath a rope without risk of cutting the skin. And for God’s sake, make sure you have a key before you try on those handcuffs!
Pay attention! Use common sense. Don’t rush full-tilt into things you haven’t tried yet.
Surprise Beginnings
This is a good way to start a scenario or an evening’s activities. When the submissive is away, perhaps at work or at the store, take a brown paper bag and place a set of restraints (ankle cuffs, wrist cuffs, or the like), or a blindfold, or both, in it. Set the paper bag near the bedroom door (or, if you have enough privacy, near the door to the house!), and tape a sheet of paper with instructions on it on the door. The sheet should instruct the submissive to strip completely, open the bag, and put on the restraints/cuffs/blindfold before opening the door. The submissive is not allowed through the door until he or she is properly prepared.
Naughty boarding school student
A variant on the classic “naughty Catholic schoolgirl,” this fantasy scenario features a boarding school student who is caught by the headmistress doing something bad–masturbating, reading a dirty magazine, or that sort of thing. The stern headmistress (or headmaster) must then discipline the student. Spankings and other corporeal punishment is a good place to start; or perhaps the student will be stripped and made to stand in the corner, or be stripped with genitals bound, or be forced to beg the headmistress or headmaster for permission. In any event, if the student becomes aroused during the punishment, then they will be in much more serious trouble…which may include more punishment directly to the submissive’s genitals.
Variations on this scenario include the submissive being “caught” by the babysitter or other caretaker.
Pony play
Pony play is traditionally done with female submissives but works just as well for anyone. The submissive is treated as a “pony,” and fairly elaborate scenario can be constructed around the buying of a new pony, the humiliating rituals of checking teeth and genitals for health problems, and the teaching and learning of new gaits and tricks. For example, the dominant can stand still with a crop, with the submissive on a tether (attached to a bit or even to nipple piercings), and have the submissive run in circles around the dominant until he or she reaches a constant speed for ‘walk’, for ‘canter’, for ‘gallop’, and so on. The crop can be used for ‘motivation’, “Get those knees up!” for example. For this type of pony play is that all you really need are a bit gag, some rope for reins, a ‘hitching post’, and space.
A variant on this is adding a ‘pony tail’ (a fall of hair attached to a butt plug) which can be fun to comb, to braid, and even to tie bows in.
Ghost
This is a role-playing scenario for three people, all of whom are lovers. One of the three players is a “ghost,” invisible and inaudible to the other people. The two people who are not ghosts have a hot-n-heavy make-out session on the couch, while the ghost does whatever he or she likes to the other two people. The two people can not see or hear the ghost, but they can feel what the ghost does–so they blame the things on each other (for example, if the ghost gropes someone, that person will believe the other person did it). The ghost is free to do whatever he or she likes and touch or tease the others howeverhe or she wants–completely blameless.
An interrogation scene is a role-playing scenario where one person knows some information that the other person is trying to find out. The trick to an interrogation scene is to have some specific piece of information, which the submissive partner knows but the dominant partner doesn’t. A good way to do this is to shuffle a deck of cards and have the submissive secretly look at the top card in the deck; the dominant’s job then becomes to get the submissive to say what card it is.
A basic interrogation scene might start out with the dominant “capturing” and forcibly restraining the submissive, perhaps by stripping the submissive and tying the submissive to a chair or to the bed. The dominant then begins “torturing” the submissive to get the information. This “torture” can combine many of the ideas described here–clothespins, spanking, paddling, mock-“rape,” and so on. If the submissive doesn’t turn over the information, the dominant can keep escalating the interrogation, gradually moving to more and more intense activity, until the submissive cracks and tells the dominant the information.
Night Security
The setting here is straightforward: the dominant is a security guard, and the submissive has committed some infraction–perhaps trespassing on secure property while walking home late one night.
The security guard confronts the offender, and takes the offender back into the security room, where the offender is subject to a humiliating strip search. the secuirty guard explains that standard policy is for the police to be notified and the offender is to be booked for criminal trespass, but that other arrangements can be made; at this point, wishing to avoid a night in jail, the offender does whatever the security guard instructs.
As a variation, the security guard is required by company policy to videotape the search, to prevent liability problems; after the guard and the trespasser reach their agreement, the guard continues to videotape the trespasser while the guard molests him or her, just to add to the humiliation…
The Prize
In this scenario, the submissive is a dancer at an “anything goes” nightclub. As a special promotion, the club has sponsored a drawing; the winner of the drawing gets full and complete use of the stripper for an evening, and the stripper must allow the winner to do whatever he or she wants. The winner takes full advantage of the prize, using the stripper as a sex toy; the stripper must be completely obedient and allow the winner to do whatever the winner wishes, regardless of how the stripper feels about it.
Secret past
The submissive in this scenario has a secret past–some dark, shameful thing he or she has done, which his or her spouse absolutely, positively must never learn about. One day, a person out of this dark past shows up on the submissive’s doorstep, with photographs and videotape in hand, threatening to expose the submissive’s secret to his or her spouse.
Desperate, the submissive bribes the blackmailer with sexual favors, trading sex for the secrecy. the blackmailer may make any demands on the submissive’s body; the submissive is forced to comply, or be exposed.
The Hostage
This scenario is best with some prior planning; arrange a night in a seedy motel at the edge of town.
In this scenario, the submissive is an innocent victim, and the dominant is a desperate criminal. The dominant carjacks the victim’s car to escape police, not allowing the victim time to escape and driving too fast for the victim to jump out of the car. The carjacker drives to a seedy motel on the edge of town, where he or she decides to take advantage of the turn of events by raping the victim in the run-down motel room.
The Photo Shoot
This is a fun scenario with a bonus: a little something after it’s done as a keepsake.
One person is a professional photographer, specializing in erotic and sensual photography. The other is the client, who wants a special set of photographs.The client commissions the photographer to do a sexy series of photos, in whatever pose the photographer wants.
After the shoot is over, the photographer reveals a catch: the photographer wants payment for the shoot in a…special form. Rather than paying the normal fee, the client will pay the photographer in sexual favors. The client renders payment by becoming the photographer’s plaything, agreeing to do whatever the photographer says. The photographer may even do a second shoot to record the events…
This can be a fun prelude to the “Secret Past” scenario described above, where later the photographs are used to blackmail the submissive into giving sexual favors.
The Pirate
This is a basic roleplaying scenario. You’re the rapacious pirate plundering the village; she’s the innocent maiden in the local town. (It works particularly well if you have an eyepatch and a bandana.) She’s at home alone, minding her own business, when you come crashing through the door. She struggles, of course, but she’s helpless to resist you. Swooping down on her, you bodily rip her clothing from her and pin her against the wall. You hold her there by the wrists while you explain what you’re going to do to her. Then, finally, you ravish her until you’re thoroughly satisfied.
Dinner and a Movie
This one explores the psychology of power exchange. One of you agrees to be the submissive for the evening; the other is the dominant, the maestro, the one whose word is law. You go out for an evening on the town–a formal dinner, perhaps, and maybe a movie afterward. The dominant should establish a few rules beforehand; for example, the submissive is not allowed to speak to or have any contact with anyone except the dominant. So, for example, when you’re ordering your meals in the restaurant, the submissive cannot tell the waiter what to bring; he or she must tell the dominant, who will then tell the waiter. (Or, you can turn this around; the dominant speaks to nobody except through the submissive.) Rules like this are fun to play with, because while the people around you may notice something is going on, the won’t know exactly what. As the evening progresses, the dominant can find all kinds of delightfully subtle ways to tease the submissive.
Perhaps the dominant will tell the submissive to go to the restroom and remove his or her her underwear, the better to tease him or her in a darkened theater. The dominant can order the submissive not to come back out of the restroom until he or she has masturbated to high arousal.
Or perhaps the submissive will have to wear a sex toy or anal plug of some sort under his or her clothes. Maybe during dinner the dominant can whisper to the submissive what will happen when they get back home.
The key to enjoying this kind of scenario is to keep it quiet; it’s great fun if nobody else has the slightest idea what’s going on. (To an aroused submissive, it will seem like it’s obvious and that everybody knows what’s happening–and that’s part of the fun!)
Mad Scientist
In this game, the dominant is the evil mad scientist, and the submissive is his helpless experimental victim. The mad scientist (who for effect can be wearing rubber gloves and a disposable laboratory gown) has the subject tied to his examining table deep in the heart of his laboratory, and can perform all manner of experiments on her. He might, for example, probe her in various places using any one of a number of suitable laboratory instruments (vibrators are good for this). Perhaps while he’s doing that, he might put clothespins on her nipples, to see how they respond to compression. Maybe he’ll want to experiment to see how long she can be stimulated without being allowed to climax. He could keep her there through the long hours of the night, conducting endless experiments to find out how many times she can climax, or how large a probe she can accept, or how deeply she can be penetrated…you get the idea.
If you happen to be polyamorous, an interesting variant on this game is “Mad Scientist, Submissive Lab Assistant, and Innocent Victim.”
Ravishment
This starts as a romantic evening at home. It can be dinner for two, or cocktails, or simply wine in front of the fireplace. In any event, after kissing, cuddling and necking for awhile, the submissive refuses to go farther. Slapping or pinching the randy suitor in the middle of a clinch, should be last ditch actions.
Finally the dominant reaches a limit. When the submissive rejects the demand to “put out”, the dominant ties the submissive up, then has his or her way with until the submissive is begging for release.
Crime and Punishment
Make up some silly rules, the violation of which is grounds for arrest. One such “rule” might be Attempted Seduction; another could be Aggregated Sexiness, or Possession of a Dangerous Body. Or she can to wear hooker clothes, and stand on the corner of Driveway and Garage Door when he drives home. She makes him an offer, only to learn that he’s a vice cop.
In any case, she’s placed under arrest. He makes her “spread ’em”, frisks her, and ties her hands — it’s been a busy night, they’re out of handcuffs. This can also explain why she’s tied to a chair in the squad (bed) room instead of going to lockup. If she smarts off to the arresting officer, he might even gag her.
Depending on your own particular tastes, she could get a bench trial and be sentenced to a spanking. Or she could bribe the officer with her body…
Switch Tease
Before anything gets underway, she ties his hands and blindfolds him. Then she puts on a sexy outfit that he likes her to wear. (Have you ever had to sit and listen to a woman change clothes?) When she’s ready, she removes the blindfold, and proceeds to tease her prisoner unmercifully with her body. At some point, of course, she makes a mistake. Perhaps his pleas to be allowed to touch her make her careless. In any event, he gets loose, siezes her in his strong, masculine arms, and proceeds to tie her up. He then drives her wild with desire, until, standing over his captive, he slowly strips . . . Okay, you get the idea.
These kinds of things all qualify as “doing” BDSM; there are endless variants on these ideas, and a whole rich territory outside these particular scenarios to explore. Some people might be interested in doing this sort of thing only occasionally, and alternate between who’s the dominant and who’s the submissive; other people like to make dominance and submission a full-time part of their lives. The point is to have fun with it; discover what arouses you and do it!
Exchange of Power
(Good for bondage fans, rather than D/s fans)
She dresses in full Domme gear — black lace bustier, long gloves, stockings and high heeled boots — or a reasonable and affordable facsimile. She also needs a weapon — a whip is of course traditional, but a toy pistol could also be used. She struts out and confronts him, orders him about like a mere slave. Perhaps he goes along for a bit, lulling her into false security. Then he swings into action, knocking her talisman of power from her hand. Perhaps he gives her “The Kiss of the Petite Mort”–a kiss so romantically powerful that her will is completely sapped. Or if they want to play a little rougher, he simply clips her (lightly!) on the jaw, knocking her out. Then he ties her up. She struggles fetchingly in her unyielding bonds, demanding release until her gags her. Then, slowly, he has his way with her helpless body . .
Playing Army
This one can be played either of two ways: Either the resistance fighter has been captured by the local garrison — tied to a chair and interrogated as to the location of the secret base — or the soldier has been caught by the local guerrillas, who are known for their ruthless treatment of the Occupation forces.
There are two costume choices. Either he puts on a “uniform” of dark green work pants, T-shirt and combat boots while she wears a partisenne costume of satin skirt, striped T-shirt, beret, and heels. Or he wears the beret and stripes as the Partisan while she wears a military-looking skirted suit with brass decorations and boots.
Pick a war, pick a side, have fun with it. In any case, the captive should manage to seduce the guard and escape.
Burglar
(This is for guys to spring on girls)
Call your lady friend. Tell her you’ve heard that there are Burglars in her neighborhood, who prey on the type of young, beautiful, single woman who traipeses around her apartment at 8:00 in the evening wearing sexy lingerie. They tie these women up, ransack their bedrooms, then Have Their Way with their helpless victims. They seldom even have to break in, because these women are the scatterbrained type who leave their front doors unlocked.
I mean: Lay it on with a trowel. Make it abundantly clear to your friend that she should be lounging around her place in lingerie with the front door unlocked at 8 o’clock tonight.
Obviously, you go over to her place at 8, wearing a burglar costume: Black shirt, black slacks, leather gloves, a swag bag, and a mask of some kind. When you buzz, announce “Burglars!” in a friendly voice (assuming there’s nobody else in the lobby) Go up to her place. Open the door. Tiptoe around until you find your lady, hopefully dressed to please you. You could “chloroform” her by holding a handkerchief soaked in cheap cologne lightly over her nose and mouth for a few seconds; Or she could obligingly faint at the very sight of you. Or you can simply seize her in your strong, manly arms. The result is the same: She gets bound and gagged in her bedroom, where she must sit / lie helplessly while you go through her dresser drawers, take her costume jewelry, rummage in her purse, and generally violate her space. Then you can violate her. After you’ve taken everything of value, you leave her tied up and go. (NOTE DANGER WARNING ALERT PAY ATTENTION! Do NOT go out any doors that lock, period!) Just go a short distance away. Wait a few minutes. Put on a different shirt, and take off the mask. Then go back into the bedroom with a cheerful, “Here I am to protect you from the burglars — Heavens! What happened!!” Untie her, take her in your arms, comfort her an any way she may desire. See how many ways she can show her gratitude for being rescued.
For people whose tastes are a bit spicier, you can do the same sort of scenario with less warning. Call your partner and tell her you’ve just seen a news report that says there’s a burglar in the area. Then, dress as a burglar, and creep into your house. Catch your partner by surprise, physically overpower him or her, and have your way with him or her.
Burglar II
In this version, the submissive is the burglar — black leotard, black tights, boots and mask. The submissive sneaks into the apartment, and begins rummaging through the dominant’s things. Suddenly the lights go on — the burglar has been caught! The dominant ties up the captive burglar for the cops. The burglar pleads, offering anything to be let go…
Exorcism
This is a complex role-playing scenario good for psychological interplay. In this scenario, one partner is possessed by a demon; the other partner is a member of the clergy called in to cast out the evil spirit.
The demon does not want to go, of course, and will do anything, up to and including trying to seduce the clergyman, to escape. Complicating the scenario is the fact that the person possessed by the demon is sexually chaste and naive, and is quite shocked by the things the demon is making him or her do; complicating it still further is the fact that the clergyman is also sexually naive and inexperienced. So the evil demon forces a sexually timid person to seduce the inexperienced priest in some extremely vulgar and profane ways, much to the chagrin of the person whose body the demon has inhabited, and is using…
This scenario can allow you to really play up the virgin/whore dichotomy. It also allows for a great deal of very kinky humiliation play, where the person possessed by the demon will describe himself or herself in graphic and vulgar terms, and perform very kinky actions, while still trying to “resist” doing these things. Will the priest be able to cast out the demon before both people lose their purity? Probably not…
The Deprogramming
This is a scenario that’s similar in some ways. It’s also psychologically complex. One person is a brainwashed cult victim recently rescued from the clutches of a cult; the other is an unethical deprogrammer.
The deprogrammer is trying to undo the effects of the cult brainwashing. During this process, the cult victim becomes confused, and loses all perspective on the difference between right and wrong. The unethical deprogrammer takes advantage of the vulnerable cult victim by making the victim do things for the deprogrammer’s own twisted sexual gratification.
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