Giving a woman oral sex is one of the most intimate things you can do — and when you do it well, the results are unforgettable. The problem is that many men are nervous about it, unsure of what to do, or rely on techniques they picked up from porn that simply don’t work in real life.
This guide breaks it down step by step, from the warm-up to the finish, based on what actually works.
Step 1: Make Her Comfortable First
Women are different from men when it comes to arousal. You can’t just undress her and dive in — she needs to feel comfortable, desired, and relaxed before she can fully enjoy oral sex.
Start by kissing her lips, her neck, and slowly working your way down her body. Take your time. The more you build anticipation, the more responsive she’ll be when you finally get between her legs.
Practical tip: Place a pillow under her hips. It improves the angle for you and makes things more comfortable for her. Small details like this show you care about her experience.
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Step 2: Tease Before You Please
Once you’re between her legs, resist the urge to go straight for the clitoris. Instead, kiss her inner thighs. Use your tongue to trace around her outer labia. Let your breath warm her skin. Make her want it before you give it to her.
This teasing phase does two important things: it increases blood flow to the area (making her more sensitive) and it builds psychological anticipation. By the time you make contact with her most sensitive spots, she’ll already be highly aroused.
Step 3: Start Gentle, Read Her Reactions
Every woman is different, so the first few minutes should be about exploration. Use the flat of your tongue to make slow, broad licks over the entire area. Pay attention to how she reacts — when she moans, shifts her hips toward you, or grabs your hair, you’ve found something that works.
Key techniques to try:
- Flat tongue circles — relax your tongue and make slow circles around her clit
- Side to side — gentle side-to-side motion across the clit
- Gentle sucking — take her clit between your lips with light suction
- Full licks — long, slow licks from bottom to top across the entire area
Think of yourself as a mixologist: vary the speed (slow then fast), the pressure (soft then firm), and the shape of your tongue (flat then pointed). But once you find something she responds to — stick with it.
Step 4: Use Your Hands
Your tongue does the main work, but your hands multiply the pleasure. While your mouth focuses on her clit, use your hands to:
- Caress her inner thighs, stomach, and breasts
- Slide one or two fingers inside her — curl them upward to find the G-spot
- Hold her hips gently to maintain contact
Coordinating tongue and finger movements takes practice, but the combination of clitoral and internal stimulation is what produces the strongest orgasms for most women.
Step 5: When She’s Close — Don’t Change Anything
This is the most important rule. When she starts moaning louder, breathing faster, and her body tenses — do not change what you’re doing. Same speed, same pressure, same motion. Women can lose an orgasm if you switch techniques at the wrong moment.
The only exception: if she verbally asks you to go harder or faster, follow her lead. Otherwise, maintain exactly what’s working until she finishes.
Step 6: Be Patient
Women typically take longer than men to reach orgasm — anywhere from 10 to 20 minutes of oral stimulation is normal. If your tongue gets tired, switch to using the flat of your tongue (which requires less effort) or alternate between your tongue and your lips.
Don’t rush her. If she feels pressured to come quickly, it actually makes it harder. Stay relaxed, stay consistent, and let her get there in her own time.
Step 7: Talk About It Afterward
The best lovers communicate. After sex, when you’re both relaxed, ask her what she liked most. Tell her how much you enjoy going down on her. This kind of open conversation makes every time better than the last.
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I want to lick pussy but my girlfriend’s pussy has a fishy smell. Can you guide me regarding the ways to get rid of the smell.
You can ask her to clean her pussy before you start licking. That might help.
Most of the times, smell could be because of diet or some underlying medical condition. Seeing a doctor is the best thing to do.
As I think before licking rub through tongue side of pussy as long as go licking girl can throw her York
As a gynecologist the most common cause of a fishy smell to a vagina is caused by a bacteria called Garnerella Vaginalis and it is very easy to cure and treat. The most common way is a Rx for Metrogel vaginal cream to use for once or twice a day for 5 days..or a Rx Flagyl (metronidazole 500mg ) to take I daily for 5 days